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How do married couples know when it is time to call it?

On Behalf of | May 3, 2023 | Divorce

Divorce is a difficult and painful decision that many couples face. However, sometimes it may be the best option for both partners and their children. And, there are signs that Illinois couples should look out for that mean they should likely divorce.

Lost respect and trust

The first sign is that you one or both of you have lost respect for each other. If couples constantly criticize, belittle or insult each other, they have lost respect and trust. This can lead to resentment, contempt and emotional abuse.

No communication or intimacy

Another sign is that you have lost the ability to communicate, and you no longer have intimacy. Communication and intimacy are essential for keeping a relationship alive and satisfying. If couples rarely talk, share feelings or show affection, they have drifted apart and lost their connection. This can make them feel lonely, unhappy and unfulfilled.

Incompatible goals or values

Yet another sign is that you have incompatible goals or values. Couples need to have some common ground and a shared vision for their future. If they have different goals or values that are not compatible or negotiable, they may find themselves in conflict or disagreement. This can create frustration, disappointment and resentment.

People change over time, and sometimes they grow apart from their partners. If couples no longer share interests, hobbies, friends or passions, they may lose their sense of compatibility and companionship. This can make them feel bored, restless or dissatisfied.

Repeated or unresolved conflicts

Repeated or unresolved conflicts are yet another divorce sign. Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but they need to be resolved in a constructive and respectful way. If couples have frequent or intense arguments that never get resolved, they may damage their relationship and hurt each other. This can lead to anger, bitterness and hostility.

The takeaway

These signs are not definitive or conclusive, but they indicate that a relationship may be in trouble and need professional help or intervention. If couples recognize these signs in their own relationship, they should not ignore them or hope they will go away.

They should seek counseling or therapy to try to work on their issues and improve their relationship. However, remember, if it does not work, divorce is not a failure or a shame, but a chance to start over and find happiness elsewhere.