Loud arguments, hostile exchanges and – perhaps worse – silent tension. When a marriage isn’t working anymore, the impact on everyone in the house, including children, can be extremely stressful. So, is it really best to stay together for the kids?
What you remember about your childhood friends’ struggle through a parents’ divorce can impact your level of anxiety about an impending divorce. Even more so, your own experience when your mom and dad split up can make you feel as if you are hurting your kids if you end the marriage. Then there are the studies that show clear data on the negative effects on children, making you feel even guiltier than you thought possible. For example, one study found that divorce can make a child more susceptible to becoming sick from viruses such as the common cold. In the study, children whose parents had a contentious relationship post-separation were more than three times as likely to catch a cold as the children whose parents remained together.